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How does stress impact you, and how can you manage it?

Stress can have a huge impact on your health and wellbeing. Are you feeling overwhelmed, worrying about the future, and not being effective in what you are doing? Read on.

Stress is defined as any environmental conditions that require behavioural adjustment. Stress is inevitable, and a normal part of life.

A little stress is good for you, it helps performance. Once stress increases to a level, fatigue sets in, then exhaustion, Illness and breakdown. Too little stress and you get bored.

Stress provides feedback. Stress is a physical expression of our “Fight or Flight” survival mechanism. A perceived threat will trigger a stress response in our body, which prepares us to confront or flee a potential danger. This helps for immediate danger, but unfortunately the stress response is also triggered by tense situations where physical action is not an option.

In today’s fast paced life, we are continually receiving signals that trigger our stress response.

Potential stress triggers include relationship breakdowns, financial problems, health concerns, caring for a newborn baby, traumatic events.

The stress response triggers changes in your body:

  • Blood sugar levels rise
  • Additional red blood cells are released to carry extra oxygen
  • Peripheral blood vessels constrict
  • Heart rate increases
  • Blood pressure rises
  • Digestion slows down and stops

Stress causes chemical changes in the body that can have negative effects on both mental and physical health if the stress response continues. Chronis stress occurs when the stress response keeps the body on alert continuously.

Stress can be reduced by a number of methods. If possible.

  • You can eliminate the trigger.
  • Exercise helps, including yoga, tai chi, qi gong, walking, running, and swimming.
  • Getting professional support such as your GP, a counsellor, or therapist.
  • Elicit the Relaxation Response can reverse the Stress Response. The Relaxation Response can be elicited through meditation.

If you would like to learn how to reduce and manage stress, join my meditation group, or come along to one of my workshops.

www.meditationgroup.net.au/programs/

​Press Pause on the World

When was the last time you took time out for yourself to push pause on the world and learn how to integrate self-care practices into your daily routine?

I am offering a 4 hour introduction to Stress Reduction and Mindful Meditation on Saturday 20 July 2019 at 9:30 in our rooms in Gosford

No robes, or religious affiliation. We sit on chairs (unless you prefer to bring a cushion or meditation stool).

The morning will include some discussion on how to reduce stress, learning some tools to take away, and some short guided meditations.

Coming from the corporate world, and commuting to Sydney for 20 years, I understand the rush of work/business life, and how it can be difficult to press pause.

To book, click on Press Pause on the World

Are You Relaxed?

Are you aware how tense you are?

Where in your body are you holding your tension?
What does it feel like?
A quick technique to release tension and relax.
  1. Anywhere, anytime, ask yourself “Am I relaxed?"
  2. If not, notice how you are sitting and breathing.
  3. Adjust your position to relive tension.
  4. Consciously let go on the outbreath, 5-10 times.
  5. Resume what you were doing.
Ignoring tension can lead to problems such as upset stomach, not sleeping well, irritable, not enjoying life and ordinary tasks seem all too much.
The more you recognise tension, the more you relax.
Meditation can be a great way for initiating the Relaxation Response.

Check out my meditation courses.

Why You Need a Coach

When and why would you need a coach?

If one or more of these points apply to you, then it’s time to stop and think about how you can overcome your hurdles, and consider getting a coach to help you do it.

  • Are you overwhelmed or taking on too much…can’t say no?
  • Are you approaching or experiencing burnout?
  • Do you feel stuck or dissatisfied with your life?
  • Are there challenges in your life you are struggling to overcome?
  • Do you have limiting beliefs and thought patterns that hold you back from living your life fully?
  • Are issues from the past preventing you from living in the here and now?
  • Do you suffer from depression or anxiety?
  • Are you having conflict or difficulties in your relationship or in your family?
  • Are you feeling stuck or unmotivated?
  • Have you experienced grief and loss?
  • Are you struggling with something you can’t talk to anyone about?
  • Are you experiencing health problems from addiction, compulsive behaviour, phobias, eating disorders or illness?
  • Do you need support in facing change or life transitions?
  • Are you looking for a career makeover or acceleration?

There certainly are numerous benefits to getting a coach, such as:

  • You don’t know what you don’t know. When we are pursuing a goal that we’ve never achieved before, how will you know if you’re going about the right way or even the most efficient way? A good Coach is able to guide you through your knowledge deficits.
  • Seeing your issue or goal from another’s perspective. If we’ve got a problem or haven’t achieved a specific goal or task, it’s because we’re looking at it from just one vantage point. A Coach is like a spider; they have more than one set of eyes and can usually see where you cannot.
  • No-one likes to push their own barrow. Statistically, 92 percent of people will not achieve their goals. In fact, they won’t even take the first step, let alone go the distance. A Coach will hold you accountable for your goals and task you. They’ll make sure that you do what must be done.
  • We’re blind to the cause of our problems. If you knew the cause of your problems or issues, chances are you would no longer have them. A Coach, particularly an NLP trained Coach, can actually dig deep enough to find the very cause of your stumbling blocks and remove them. Try doing that on your own.

So how can a coach help you?

  • Offering ongoing support in a caring non-judgmental environment.
  • Providing a safe space where you will be understood and listened to. Not judged.
  • Working with you in a creative and intuitive way towards positive change.
  • Providing strategies and assist you in creating more balance in your life.
  • Building awareness of where trauma and pain are held in the body.
  • Working experientially with polarities and stuck points.
  • Building connection and balance between your mind and sensory awareness.
  • Offering a holistic and spiritual approach to assisting you on your life journey.

6 Definitions That are Useful

Something I have noticed is that there are many different understandings on what a coach does.

Here are some definitions of coaching and counselling related terms that are often incorrectly assumed to be synonymous or that are being confused:

  • Mentoring: The acquisition of wisdom by observing and learning from a seasoned professional in your field. Usually short term.
  • Counselling: The provision of professional assistance and guidance in resolving personal or psychological problems.
  • Therapy: The treatment of mental or psychological disorders by psychological means. Past-oriented, problem focused, and progress measured.
  • Training: The organized procedure by which people learn knowledge and/or skills for a defined purpose.
  • Consulting: A method to get an expert’s advice on what to do.
  • Coaching: The unlocking of existing gifts and skills. Future-oriented, solution-focused, and performance measured.

None of these activities live in watertight box. During most coaching sessions, the conversation will often alternate between coaching, counselling, mentoring, and therapy.

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